Now that we have a better understanding of why it is so hard for boys to talk about their feelings, let’s dive into what we can do to help our boys talk about their emotions.
“Naming it is the very first step”
– Matt Browning
I’m continuing the conversation with Matt Browning, who shares great, actionable strategies for helping our boys verbally express their feelings more easily. Matt shares how we should first help our boys understand why we have feelings in the first place. Understanding this, in combination with education around how to recognize feelings, will lead to more motivation to talk about them. Which makes total sense to me!
“The worst time to talk about emotions is when you’re already emotionally escalated”
– Matt Browning
So how do we go about this? What are some actionable tactics to help our boys? And when is actually the right time to talk about this? Matt has all the answers in today’s episode. You can find our podcast Active and Connected Families wherever you listen to your podcasts, or easily click the links below to listen:
In this episode on helping boys talk about feelings, we discuss:
- Actionable strategies for helping boys talk about feelings;
- The importance of education around emotions and how to go about it;
- Why it’s helpful to keep it general at first instead of going personal right away;
- Leaning into the resistance you feel from your kid instead of going against it;
- When’s the right time to talk about feelings?;
- And so much more!
More about Virginia Family Therapy
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Are you or your child struggling with mental health? We have a team of psychologists and psychiatrists who can help you out. You can learn more about our practice or contact us here.
More about Matt Browning, LPC
Matt is a Licensed Professional Counselor at Virginia Family Therapy with over 20 years of experience helping children, adolescents, and families. He specializes in working with clients struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, substance abuse, anger management, stress management, and relational problems. If you or your children feel stuck, confused, frustrated, or even scared of therapy, you are not alone and Matt has worked with many families in your shoes.
Outside of work, Matt’s loves include trail running, paddle boarding, hiking with his wife and two daughters, and listening to his vinyl record collection. On Sundays in the Fall, you can usually catch him in the Living Room watching the NFL. Matt works out of the Pantops-Olympia Office and can be reached directly at email@example.com
Learn more about Matt here.
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